It’s not “What”(or “Why”), but “How”!
Life’s a big mystery. You’ll never knew just what is waiting for you ’round the corner. But hey, old man Confucius said (largely simplified for you dummies out there): "Shit Happens…"
So what are you going to do when shit do happen, to you in particular? Do you break down and cry? Or perhaps feeling lonely and helpless suits you better? Or maybe the help of few caring (and maybe uncaring) friends could help you better (or worsen) your mood? Or perhaps, going home to the house of dear God is the best way out of trouble?
Sorry for the sarcasm, but most people just can’t see the bright side of all sides! Most people tend to remember black over white, darkness over light, mistakes over kindness. Correct me if I’m wrong, but I believe that ALL human beings will have (or had) a down-time-of-their-life once in a while. But the point of this BlogPost is, how to get back up, learn from mistakes, and start to see the bright side of life!
So, back to the title: "It’s not ‘What’ (or ‘Why’), it’s ‘How’!". You don’t ask "What caused him to dump me?" or "What made my colleagues hate me?" and period, you fall into the dark abyss of depression and stress. Questions, in general are formed through 5W and 1H. What, when, where, eho, and why, plus How. Note my emphasis on How since it’s the final form of all questions, the solution of all problems!
Consider this, after you ask yourself What, for an example, you’ll get a noun, or perhaps a verb. (What have I done wrong? I kicked his sorry a$$…) or (Why did he dump me? Because I like to dress scarcely and act bitchy…) The answers from these INITIAL question should then be used in the making of the HOW question. (How can I possibly kick his a$$?) or (How come do I get used to scarce dressing habits and bitchy behavior?)
See, using the How questions, the answers you’ll get are those which corrects yourself. Giving you suggestions and solutions for further interactions with life. Your life begins with yourself, and evolves around you. If you can’t make it better, if you can’t make yourself into a better individual, how can life be good for you? Remember, there’s always a bright side on everything. You just have to believe they exist and look for it!
March 30th, 2006 at 6:27 am
not only poetic, u’re philosophical !!
the how question word is what most people forget, instead of thinking how they can solve their problems their tend to run away, think about good-menyenangkan-things which can cary them away from their problems. even God can be an escape door for most Christian. A place where they can feel safe without doing anything, well that’s basically wrong… u still have to do something eventhough you believe in God, can’t just sit and wait for miracles to happen. Have to act 
it’s sometimes frustating to see people pray but do nothing, but it also frustates me to see people do everything without thinking about God….