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I’m overly chatty today, so I’ll just add another BlogPost to the masses!

Friends are those who care for you, even when you don’t really have time to care for others.

Friends are those who remembers your name, even when you need to remember lots of more important names.

Friends are those who sends you short messages and e-mails, even when they know that you can’t reply to them.

Friends are those who remembers your birthday, even when you consider birthdays of anyone are insignificant.

Friends are those who brings you back down to earth, when you have flown too high.

Friends are those who listens to you, even though they too, needed to say something.

Friends are those who try to get along with you, even when you (and they) know you’re a total jerk.

and finally,
Friends are those who will always be there when you need them, even when you didn’t ask them to be.

Feel free to copy this Post and email this to your friends!
btw, I created this myself, thank you…

Life’s a big mystery. You’ll never knew just what is waiting for you ’round the corner. But hey, old man Confucius said (largely simplified for you dummies out there): "Shit Happens…"

So what are you going to do when shit do happen, to you in particular? Do you break down and cry? Or perhaps feeling lonely and helpless suits you better? Or maybe the help of few caring (and maybe uncaring) friends could help you better (or worsen) your mood? Or perhaps, going home to the house of dear God is the best way out of trouble?

Sorry for the sarcasm, but most people just can’t see the bright side of all sides! Most people tend to remember black over white, darkness over light, mistakes over kindness. Correct me if I’m wrong, but I believe that ALL human beings will have (or had) a down-time-of-their-life once in a while. But the point of this BlogPost is, how to get back up, learn from mistakes, and start to see the bright side of life!

So, back to the title: "It’s not ‘What’ (or ‘Why’), it’s ‘How’!". You don’t ask "What caused him to dump me?" or "What made my colleagues hate me?" and period, you fall into the dark abyss of depression and stress. Questions, in general are formed through 5W and 1H. What, when, where, eho, and why, plus How. Note my emphasis on How since it’s the final form of all questions, the solution of all problems!

Consider this, after you ask yourself What, for an example, you’ll get a noun, or perhaps a verb. (What have I done wrong? I kicked his sorry a$$…) or (Why did he dump me? Because I like to dress scarcely and act bitchy…) The answers from these INITIAL question should then be used in the making of the HOW question. (How can I possibly kick his a$$?) or (How come do I get used to scarce dressing habits and bitchy behavior?)

See, using the How questions, the answers you’ll get are those which corrects yourself. Giving you suggestions and solutions for further interactions with life. Your life begins with yourself, and evolves around you. If you can’t make it better, if you can’t make yourself into a better individual, how can life be good for you? Remember, there’s always a bright side on everything. You just have to believe they exist and look for it!

WHOA, DUDE!
What is the USE of this Constitution? What GOOD can come from this Constitution?

Actually, I don’t really have much to say about this, since those mostly affected by the constitution would be girls, with the clothing regulation and all (I’m not a male who’s going to wear tanktops or you-can-sees anyway…).

But really, let’s look at this regulation this way:
1) Animals are given leashes because they bite. They’re dangerous. They’re vaccinated because they can spread illnesses.
2) Crooks, like thieves, robbers, murderers are imprisoned, because they’re dangerous. There are rules and regulations about not being a crook and all.
3) Are we Indonesian people so dangerously HORNY and IMMORAL so that on every glimpse of anything sex-related or sexual-body-parts-related, we simply go out of control and do the "stuff"? The new Constitution treats all Indonesians and those who live here as dangerous animals or crooks, which left unchecked could endanger the nation. Is it really this way?

I don’t have anything left to say. It’s just silly, this constitution and all, and I don’t think we need one.

Do you consider yourself a good-looking, handsome guy? Or perhaps a nicely-shaped, beautiful girl? But you still don’t have a date (girlfriend/boyfriend)? Or perhaps there is (or was) someone you liked but you just don’t know how to make the approach? Well, I hope tip #1 can do just the trick for you…

Usually, we become a different person around those we like (those we want to be our couple…), and most of the time, we SCARE them away! How can that be? Well, in most cases, what we did are:
    1. Being too quiet, retrospective, and introvert;
    2. Being too noisy, too nosy, to chatty, too insensitive because we only         talk, and talk, and talk around him/her;
    3. or perhaps you just stay well away from those we’re after.

So, here goes tip #1.

"Try to be yourself, confident and all, no matter where you are or whether the one you liked is around you or not."

By simply being yourself (if you manage to do so), will unconsciously change your overall attitude towards the one you like. You don’t differentiate them in front of everybody, and you don’t embarass yourself for those quirk behaviors you used to have when they’re around. Just don’t overact, don’t talk too much of unimportant and insignificant things, and don’t stay away (even if it feels like ripping you out of your skin!) from them.

This way, you’ll give those someones the chance to know the real you, good AND bad, and hopefully get them attracted to your personality. After all, you don’t want to get tangled in a relationship which is based on false pretentions, right?

That’s all for tip#1, and more tips coming on oncoming BlogPosts!!!

Take a look around,
what do you see?
People running workbound,
while others laugh with glee.

Take a closer look around,
what do you get?
People with trouble lying on the ground,
while others so nasty they just can’t be let.

Take a final look around,
and meanwhile, smile!
While some might not notice you’re smilin’ round,
others might smile, too - for a while…

Smile to others, and make this world a better place to live in!

At work, I’m currently under the supervision of a senior Consultant, acting as my superior ranking officer. See, he gives me the jobs I need to do, he criticizes me for the mistakes, he asks me for things he deemed to be lacking from my reports, gods, he even gave me the impression that he’s a SUPER employer in the office, with all his activeness in the mailing list and his friendly chit-chat with the General Manager.

But guess what? One day while I’m taking some time to rest, the man sitting in front of me is the Team Leader for the Programmers whose program is tested by myself. So, I asked him of his opinion about the project so far. From the conversation I found out that my Supervisor is actually the Project’s Leader, or at least the contact person to the Client (Or I’d call it the System Analyst).

Further chat with the Team Leader brought the facts that the Clients are literally pushing the programmer’s butts with ridiculous changes in system functions and requirements. So I asked, "Why didn’t the Project Leader consult the client clearly about the Project requirements and Functions?"

His answer was brief, and utterly shocking to me. He said, "Honestly, I don’t know what he’s doing with the project. Really, he does nothing as far as I know."

"What?" I stammered in disbelief. "Doesn’t he do some programming? I mean, I always see him typing something on his station…"

"No…, he can’t program at all…" And I thought I’m the only one who can’t (actually, doesn’t want to) write programs.

So, the point is… pay respect to others, but try to be honest to your surrounding (in this case, your colleagues) about what you can and can’t do. Don’t lead them to false recognition of your abilities and try not to cling so tightly on your ego. Or else, you might have your image drop painfully as a respected Supervisor into someone who sits next to me and (I’ve recently known) types ICQ messages all day long…

Man, I’m trying hard not to be like him. I don’t value myself to high, since I’m still an undergraduate and my tendency not to write programs, but I try to do my job right and I intend to show it to others that I’m serious about my job. The last thing I’d ever wanted is to have some colleague saying things behind my back about me like: "I don’t know what exactly he does, and I don’t care…"

To Introduce myself, I’d like to state thet I’m an Informatics University Student, and also a part-time worker in a local Software production house.

I write things that came in to my mind while I’m not thinking, or things that happen around me while I’m not thinking, or perhaps things that came across my mind while I AM thinking.

I only hope that the things I write could Inspire people, ushering us into a better, friendlier world full of smiles of happiness. So, if you ever caought wind of a new blogpost of mine, please read it and tell others about it.

Recently I have been working on a new project which is quite simple (if I may say so) on rules, function ,and procedures, but with such an interface that rips your head apart, grabs a spoon, and starts eating your brain!

I mean, the Interface sucks! You just don’t understand how to use it, unless you ask! What’s the point in designing a system for your customers to use, if they’ll be nagging and phoning and asking about everything to you for the next twenty years? To give you some description of the system, try this: You got a text field in which you are supposed to fill with an item code, to see the item’s detailed description. But you don’t know the Item Code! And there’s no way to find out! Now, can you just tell me how to use this page here? No? Good! Free time for me, it seems… Jeez! The more annoying it gets to me is when I asked the LEAD PROGRAMMER of the system about this, he answered me with a-matter-of-fact attitude: "We are simply re-making an older system they have with a new one. Replicating what they have to retain familiarity." Oh MY GOD! What’s the point in creating a new system when the new one is perfectly the same with the older system, only using a different programming language?

Gods, my point is, try to give something more to those who trust you to do things for them. Either it’s a friend asking for help, an employer giving you a task, a lover looking for some affectionate action from you, give it to them MORE than they’ll expect it to be! Always place yourseves in their  shoes and imagine what you’ll feel if you were given something more than what you asked. Wouldn’t it be great? Wouldn’t you feel good? Happy? Exhilarated?

For now on, I wish that we can always do something more to those around us, even a mere "Thank You" is enough for someone. And one more thing, DON’T - I MEAN, NEVER ANSWER AN IMPORTANT QUESTION WITH A STRAIGHT FACE, WITHOUT TRYING TO UNDERSTAND WHAT THE QUESTION REALLY MEAN, AND ANSWERING WITH AN ATTITUDE LIKE THE QUESTION IS STUPID! You might get a punch on the face for it!